Put Your Marriage First.
Season 1. Episode 9.
Going through struggles like infertility can either make your marriage stronger or it can drive a huge wedge between the two of you. It’s a battle every single day to prioritize each other when you’re feeling so down, lift each other up and make decisions with unity. Here are some things that helped us fight for each other on the darkest days.
Recognize that it’s no one’s fault.
Approach everything as a team.
Give your spouse the space to grieve like they need to.
Find ways to laugh & have fun together, even on the hardest days.
Communicate about where you are and what you need.
Encouragement from Chapter 7 called An Attitude of Grace:
“In marriage and in life, it’s so important to focus our time and energy on watering our own grass. If someone else’s grass looks greener, it might be simply because they are watering and caring for it consistently. One of the ways that Blake and I do this in our marriage is to take time away from the kids to observe each other in our element.
I knew I wanted to marry Blake when I went to watch him during his student teaching. Watching him pour his heart out for those kids, I knew he’d be the best dad. And he is. So, even now, my favorite thing to do is to go watch Blake coach his basketball team. Watching him in his element doing what he was created to do ignites my love for him all over again. It reminds me that the work he is doing outside of our home matters so much.
Water the grass you are standing on with grace. Pluck the weeds. Mow faithfully. Meticulously trim the edges so there is room for love and gratitude to grow. Be faithful where God has you. Whatever is causing the seeds of discontentment and bitterness to bloom in your heart, root it out so that you can spend time making your own grass extra green.” - Give Grace book
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