Get a Second Opinion
Season 1. Episode 11.
Getting a second opinion was the best clinical decision that Blake and I made in our infertility journey. It changed the trajectory of our story. In a simple phone call, I was able to have Dr. Schoolcraft review my records and ask him all the questions. I very much valued his opinion because he didn’t need my business. He is a world renown doctor and he cares about his success rates. For these reasons, I trusted his opinion and felt confident that he would tell me the truth. I needed to hear from him that he thought he could do things differently and that the results would be different if we came to CCRM.
I’m sharing my thoughts on when and why I strongly recommend scheduling a phone consultation at CCRM in Lone Tree, Co if you are feeling stuck clinically:
If your doctor / clinic doesn’t have something different to offer you for the next round of treatment, get a second opinion and/or leave.
If your IVF treatment has failed, get a second opinion.
The time it takes to find the right clinic is not time wasted.
You have nothing to lose in getting a second opinion (other than time). I believe that the clarity and confidence you’ll gain in finding the right doctor is worth the time lost.
You can get a second opinion remotely. It’s called a phone consult. If you don’t know who to call about getting a second opinion, I highly recommend my friend Dr. Lauren Ehrhart at CCRM in Lone Tree, Co. Call 303-788-8300 to book your consult with her.
Encouragement from Chapter 2 called Grace Through the Storm:
“If this is where you are in your story—staring down a dark, uncertain path, unsure if you even have the courage to take the next step, please don’t give up. Does the road feel lonely? Are you looking around and it seems like everyone else is living different, better lives? Lives full of dreams achieved and plans working out flawlessly? Lives full of productivity and joy and ease? And yet here you are, feeling left behind in a puddle of disappointment. Comparison, doubt, shame, fear, and anxiety can consume your mind and your heart as you wait and wait and wait for it to finally be your turn. You feel stuck. That was me for four years. If I could go back in time and talk to the me then, living in that stuck time, I would give her the biggest hug and then tell her to give herself grace. I would tell her to give herself grace in her grief and to cry when she needs to. I would encourage her to give herself grace in the blame game she’s been playing and forgive herself for her past mistakes and messes (which have nothing to do with her infertility).I would tell her to give herself grace in her loneliness and that it is okay to share her pain with her friends instead of pretending to be strong. I would encourage her to give grace to those same friends, the ones who love her but don’t knowhow to help, what to say, or who say all the wrong things. I would repeat it over and over again until she listened. Grace. Grace. Grace. Grace. Because if she had known then what I know now, she would have seen that she wasn’t stuck; she was preparing while she waited. She was taking tiny baby steps that the world could see, but gigantic leaps in her heart and soul.” - Give Grace book
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